After your date tonight, (if it's one of your first few ones) you really want her to refer to you as a 'nice person', right? Although you might have striven hard to get the 'bad boy' image (at least with fellow male friends), you better strive equally hard if not more, to be 'mister nice who cares for one and all' if you want the woman you desire.
If you just thought you're 'nice' anyways, you could be in for a shock. Sure you're nice – most people are. So what?
Being nice is not enough. Making her comfortable at the dining area or opening the door of your vehicle for her is good, but you also need to be interesting. (FYI, a 'nice guy', women have told us, equates to 'wimp' in too many people's minds.)
Following are some significant things that can make the difference between a regular nice guy and a 'successful' one. Read it twice…or more. In fact we suggest you stick it on your bedroom wall if you're single and dating.
1 Women love a man who is a challenge. The quickest and easiest way we've ever heard to let a woman know that 'you' are the guy she should be pursuing is to let women know you are successful with women. If you're nice, but at the same time are also 'easily gettable', you may get thumbs down.
2 The most effective way (we hope you know this but still is a point worthy to be reiterated) to approach a woman and ignite her attraction for you is giving her a compliment on her looks. They're simple, effective, and most importantly, FREE! You give attention, and you will get attention in return! But beware, they can be suicidal if given at wrong time and about the wrong places.
3 Not being 'aggressive' doesn't mean you have to wait for madam perfection to drop into your lap (which you as a 'nice guy' deserve, of course). You have to take some initiative. Be confident (but not really over-enthusiastic) and show some honest interest in a woman.
4 The best selling genre of books in the world is romance novels... because women love romance! So don't talk about hardcore sports for God's sake! (You can talk about some cute-looking cricketers, if she is of that type). But mostly, stick to mush-talk. If you are not the type who can talk about the smell of burnt tree leaves, don't do it. You'll look fake. But taking your date in a romantic place, offering her a flower, enjoying some jazz or even touching her hand in a delicate way is very romantic.
5 Don't talk only about yourself. You want her to listen to you? First listen carefully to her when she needs to be heard and hope for the best results. The most effective way to be interesting is asking questions and listening.
Keep in mind that often (not always, but very often) when a woman tells you about a problem she's having, she's not looking to you for the solution. So don't give her unnecessary gyaan but only comfort and reassurance that you're there.
6 One of the most important rules of dating is to approach women who are interested in dating in the first place! Don't try to sell chalk to someone who's looking for cheese. Also, don't get too preachy-friendly with women still reeling under their ex-long term relationships. You will 'remain' just a shoulder to cry!
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